Filling the Empty Nest
Let's consider Helena, a bright, intelligent career woman with a lovely husband, comfortable home, good job and children successfully working their way through University.
Her health may not be one hundred percent but she's active and rarely off sick. Taking all that with the fact that she has enough money for her family's needs, and you'd think she'd be happy.
Not so. Helena herself doesn't know why it is, but she's been miserable and nervy for quite a while. Ratty with her nice family, not sleeping well and aware that she's eating the wrong things, she's increasingly feeling out of control. Her job has always been pressurised and nothing has changed, but she can't handle it the way she used to, and almost welcomes the chance to take some time off sick when she gets a bout of flu. This isn't like her and it worries her even more.
Driven at last by her increasing problems with weight and persistent thrush, she visits a nutritional therapist who takes a detailed case history. In the course of this consultation, Helena explains that her daughter is already away at University, and her son is about to leave home to begin University himself. Her daughter won't be coming home after her degree - she's got engaged and has moved in with her boyfriend.
The practitioner gives Helena a combination of dietary advice and natural remedies. She explains that they need to tackle a variety of problems.
Helena has spent the last 25 years or so focusing on everyone else but herself. She is experiencing a sense of loss at the gradual emptying of the house. She hasn't yet been encouraged to refocus on what she would like to do with the time and energy that used to go into looking after her children's immediate practical and emotional needs.
Helena's blood sugar is all over the place, partly as the result of her recent poor dietary choices. This makes her irritable and leaves her prey to mood swings and cravings for artificial stimulants such as caffeine and sugar. Obeying those cravings has upset her gut bacteria, resulting in thrush, which is a constant irritant and makes sex unappealing.
- Molkosan Vitality, a food supplement, will revitalise the good bacteria in the lower intestine, helping Helena to enjoy better digestion and increased vitality.
It contains fermented whey, soluble ﬁbre and green tea extract. It can be taken daily.
For each serving, simply dilute 2 teaspoons (10g) in 200ml of water to make a pleasant tasting, orange flavoured drink.
- A tincture of Hypericum combined with other herbs such as Melissa should help reduce the nervous tension and anxiety and improve Helena's mood. Together with more balanced blood sugar levels, this will make her feel a great deal cheerier and in control.
- Female Essence will help to tackle some of the emotional issues lying behind Helena's present issues. Flower Essences such as this one support emotional balance, especially at times of change when one has to adapt to new circumstances.
- In addition, Helena is advised that initially she should eat every four hours to support her blood sugar levels, chewing her food well and never eating on the run.
- She is to avoid refined carbohydrates and all forms of caffeine in order to keep her adrenalin levels low and her blood sugar stable.
- She is also encouraged to put some time aside to think about what direction she would like her life to take now. Together with her husband, she can consider all the interests and activities that she hasn't had time to pursue.
This phase of life creeps up on people gradually, so it's easy to be unaware of what's going on. More awareness and discussion will prevent women feeling isolated and as if they're the only one unable to cope.
Helena is now happier and lighter, thrush-free and enjoying salsa dancing with her husband. It's great when the kids come home, but it's also good to have some time without them!